Do You Feel Like You Are Enough?

I’m going to confess something here. I often have the feeling that I’m not good enough. I’m not a good enough friend, a good enough wife or a good enough mother. I’m not good enough at my job, or at my blog or at writing. I’m not fit enough, slim enough, happy enough, social enough, smart enough… the list goes on and on.

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Here’s the thing: I am not looking for sympathy. That is not what this post is about.

What I am wondering, is if I’m alone in this?

I have a tiny feeling that I’m not. 

The interesting part is that if any of my friends said this about themselves to me, I would immediately come back with, “you ARE good enough.” Whether my friends or family have feelings of failure, I know that they’re great parents, friends, coworkers, etc. I know that their weight doesn’t define them, or that the amount in their bank account isn’t what makes them good enough. I know that we’re all trying our best.

I’ve also been feeling mega-overwhelmed for a while now. I’ve felt that I need to be constantly striving, particularly with my home and with the blog. I feel like there isn’t enough traffic, or my home isn’t organized enough or it’s not tidy enough. And so what do I do? I put more pressure on myself. I make a to-do list a mile long.

You know what happens then? I’m not happy enough. What I have enough of is stress. Is that really what I want to have enough of?

So, I’ve done something just for me. I’ve had a Giving Key made with the word ‘enough’ inscribed on it. I’m going to wear it every day until I truly believe that I am enough, that I have enough, that I’m giving enough. When I’ve gotten to that place, as is the way with a Giving Key, I will give the key to someone who needs it.

I’ve had enough about worrying about enough, so this key is my reminder to myself.

And to anyone else who has anxiety over this, I’ll tell you what I would tell my friends and what I’m working on telling myself. You are enough. Just as you are. Have goals. Have dreams. You can still strive to be better. Just know that you are enough, just as you are.

 

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11 Responses to Do You Feel Like You Are Enough?

  1. Sharon smith August 19, 2016 at 6:23 am #

    That’s a lovely idea Victiria.

    • Victoria Smith August 19, 2016 at 7:24 am #

      Thanks, Sharon 🙂

  2. Hamish Mac August 19, 2016 at 6:35 am #

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-DIETlxquzY

    You made my Friday today V…., first thing I read when I came to work today.

    • Victoria Smith August 19, 2016 at 7:24 am #

      Ha ha, love that video! Oh, I’m so glad you enjoyed it.

  3. diana August 19, 2016 at 7:29 am #

    Lovely post. You are more than enough. (In the best possible way!!!!)

  4. Sophia August 19, 2016 at 9:12 am #

    Lovely article. You are enough, indeed! We are all enough! This is one of the messages I share with women and remind myself constantly. Thank you for writing this!

    • Victoria Smith August 19, 2016 at 12:15 pm #

      Thanks, Sophia. Isn’t it funny, how we set different standards for ourselves vs. for our friends and family? Glad to hear that you’re sharing messages like these with women in your life.

  5. Julie August 19, 2016 at 5:53 pm #

    Definitely enough stress!

    You are enough, we are all enough as we are.

    • Victoria Smith August 21, 2016 at 10:18 am #

      Thanks, Julie. Funny how we believe the best in others and the worst in ourselves, but I definitely felt that I wasn’t alone in this kind of feeling.

  6. Tanith de Boer August 21, 2016 at 9:07 am #

    Absolutely love this article! If only you could see through my eyes how much you inspire me my friend you’d see that you are most definitely enough. x

    • Victoria Smith August 21, 2016 at 10:17 am #

      I appreciate that, but the same goes for you! It’s so funny how we can’t see in ourselves what others do, and vice versa. We’re all rock stars, we just need to believe it.

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