Girl Tries Baby: 30 Weeks – 30 Life Lessons

Hey baby,

What a week. I actually had a super productive week at work, but a pretty horrific weekend. Let’s just say that Mommy’s personal life is hanging by a thread at the moment, but luckily I have you to focus me and remind me of what’s most important.

On a  positive note, your cousin was born this week! Your Auntie K had beautiful baby Benjamin. You guys will be 2.5 months apart. I can’t wait for you to meet each other in the spring.

I’ve been thinking long and hard recently, not so much about what I think you’ll be like (you’ll be your own unique little self), but in terms of what I want your Dad and I to teach you. We came up with a list of 30 for your 30 weeks update. Some are life lessons, some are skills and some are just… funny little things, but I thought I’d capture it here for you.

30 weeks

Be curious. They say curiosity killed the cat, but I think curiosity shows you have an interest in the world around you. It fuels your imagination and is the biggest factor in lifelong learning.

Try everything. There’s a reason this blog is called Girl Tries Life. I don’t think you know what you do or don’t like until you try it. To everything from food to school, or friends and travel, you just don’t know until you try.

Own your mistakes. To err is human. To own your mistakes is where the best of humanity is demonstrated.

Read incredible books like The Secret Island where kids run away and live on their own deserted island… but never run away! Mommy would be terrified. Remember, we can always work it out.

Pets are good for the soul. Yes, your fur-brother Skype likes to scare Mommy and Daddy with trips to the emergency vet, but we wouldn’t be without his mischievous face for anything.

There is nothing childish about Harry Potter. Not even when you’re in your thirties.

Black and white movies are not old. They are classic

Boys can play house or with dolls. Girls can build train tracks and play rough. Your gender doesn’t limit play.

You don’t have a sibling yet (unless you’re hiding a second baby in there!), but when you do, remember that they are both the most aggravating and the most rewarding people in your life. It may take a long time to appreciate them, but trust me, one day you will.

The best grilled cheese sandwiches REQUIRE butter on the outside of the bread. Don’t let anyone fool you with their low-fat nonsense. Grilled cheese is only worth it when done right.

Your heart will be broken, repeatedly. It might be broken by junior high crushes, high school boy/girlfriends or a long-term partner, but you will recover. Until then, eat chocolate, dance to loud music and be with your friends.

Nobody likes a sore loser OR a sore winner. Be gracious. Everyone gets their moment.

You’re never going to be great at everything, but find what you enjoy and work your butt off at it. Hard work goes a long way.

Arriving on time is almost the same as arriving late in the Scott/Smith household. Be early… even if it’s 30 seconds. Show respect for other peoples’ time.

The best thing you can give to anyone is your time. Spend time with your friends, your family, your pets, your community. You’ll never regret those minutes. Mommy regularly needs to remind herself of this, but it always pays off with priceless memories.

Travel insurance is ALWAYS a good idea. If in doubt, ask your Dad about his foot and Mexico.

Collect experiences and friends. Things are most often a waste of time and money.

When you get kittens, beware the spraying before they get fixed. Seriously, they will pee on your duvet. Be prepared for multiple washings.

Basic coding is important. Guess who came up with this life lesson? Yeah… your Dad wants me to learn basic coding, too.

Practice self-care, regularly. I’ve learned that the hard way, this week. It’s important to care for others, but if you’re not in a healthy place, you’re of no help to anyone.

Remove the word ‘deserve’ from your vocabulary. You don’t deserve anything. I don’t deserve anything. Just because you did A + B does not mean you get C. Life is messy. Things happen, just because, and you have to learn to deal with the curve balls. You may not think you deserve them, but none of us do. Do yourself proud and work through it.

Vietnamese coffee should be iced, not hot. Sooooo much better when it’s iced.

Always plastic wrap your liquid toiletries when traveling. Trust me on this one.

Wear ear plugs at concerts. Yes, you’re going to look like a loser, but you will probably hear the music better and you won’t be deaf by the time you’re 30.

The right decisions aren’t necessarily easy. That’s why so many people choose the wrong path, because it was easier.

Don’t write emails when you’re mad. I’ve been guilty of this, and I’ve been on the receiving end of it also. Make a draft in Word, get your feelings out, but sleep on it. You’ll more than likely do a thorough edit in the morning. Remember, you can’t take it back once you hit send.

Frank Turner is a musical god. Enough said.

Take the time to learn your times tables and learn to do long division. Truth: I suck at both. It’s embarrassing to have to whip out your iPhone calculator.

Plain and simple, don’t spend more than you make. It’s never fun to be in debt, no matter how much stuff you have surrounding you.

Love is hard work. It’s also incredible, can help you survive the worst moments and can add light to the best moments. But never, ever, underestimate the fact that you get out what you put into it.


Fun facts:

  • This week you’re the size of a cucumber…? I think these websites started to run out of good options. You’re definitely not that long and skinny, considering your head keeps bopping my ribs.
  • I took a good ten videos of you dancing in my belly this week. They’re all hilarious.
  • I’m having pretty vivid dreams. In fact, I dreamt that you are a little girl. A little munchkin that I cuddled against my chest. Maybe your uncle is right about your gender after all…
  • Speaking of dreams, you are making sleeping tricky! And then when I do sleep, you keep my brain active.
  • You do a good job of telling me when you’re stressed. This week was hard for me, again, but you forced me to practice self-care. Thank you. I promise to do better for you.

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2 Responses to Girl Tries Baby: 30 Weeks – 30 Life Lessons

  1. Nicole October 13, 2015 at 10:30 pm #

    oh god, how have you not unfriended me and my chronic lateness yet? Today I was ten minutes late and you said “gosh you’re early” which is a sad but true statement on my punctuality =p
    Loved the list 🙂 especially gender and Frank Turner. Vis a vis grilled cheese, have you ever tried them Smitten Kitchen style? they are the bomb dot com.

    • Victoria Smith October 14, 2015 at 5:40 am #

      Because despite chronic lateness you’re an incredible friend, that’s why 🙂 I’m less fussed in day-to-day life than I am at work. People who are late to meetings at work… grumble grumble. MUST try this recipe! Thanks.

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