37 weeks. Wait, let me say that again. 37 WEEKS! I have cooked you as long as is truly required, at this stage any extra days are bonus days. HOW did this go by so quickly? And… as I remember back to the hospital trips with round ligament pain (sweet Jesus I thought I was dying) or when you decided to stop moving for a good 14 hours (thanks for that freakout), it has also taken a while.
So, with your arrival any day now, your Dad and I have been trying to get all the last minute things done around the house as well as enjoying what time we have left as a twosome. For me, that partly revolves around food. Yes. Food.
Let’s put it this way, before we got pregnant with you, we did all the big things we ever wanted to do. We backpacked Southeast Asia together, which was top of our pre-baby list. We’ve had fancy meals, European adventures and we FINALLY got your Dad over to Canada. All we needed was you.
Now, all I need are a few more meals out before you temporarily render us housebound. Yes, I know, people say that you can take kids to restaurants. I’m not worried about you. I’m worried about the animal that is me, and how I’ll probably be adverse to showering and making myself look presentable. You’d be fine.
We’ve indulged with poutine at the Big Cheese, delightfully crispy pizza at Double Zero and Cupcake Mondays have kind of become a thing around here. We also nipped in to see a movie, and I’m hoping we have time for one more before you’re on your way.
We even snuck in some holiday decorating! I have a love of all things Christmas, so your Dad let us decorate early (if it were up to him, there’d be no sign of the holidays until mid-December.
The Other List
The other list that I found fascinating this week was an exercise in Birth and Babies class on our birth wishes. We were given a stack of about twenty cards each describing one aspect of birth with its opposite on the other side of the card. You had to lay out the cards and pick your preferred side, then you had to pick your top ten cards and place them in order.
This became our list of birth wishes.
Now, we all know that giving birth is filled with uncertainty and that birth plans can go out the window very quickly, but what was interesting was when the doula said to us, “okay, now you can keep your top four, but turn over cards 4, 5, 6 and 7 so they show the opposite, and see how that changes the experience.”
The reason it was interesting is because I had ordered some things as “less important”, not because they really weren’t important, but because I assumed they were givens. For example, having your labour support people in the room. I numbered it somewhere in the 4-8 section. I wasn’t alone either, which made me feel less of a horrible person! Many women in the class had done the same thing.
The exercise forced you to prioritize and at the end of the day, if I’m only getting those four cards… I’ll be okay with it.
My four that I landed on, in order of importance, are:
- Healthy Baby
- Labour Support
- Able to Move During Labour
- Skin to Skin Contact After Birth
Note that I couldn’t even squeeze in drugs here. It’s not to say that I won’t still get them (hell yes, there will be pain relief), but I can’t assume that I’ll get one over the other. At the end of the day, if I get these four things, I’ll consider myself lucky.
So, little baby, and others who read this blog, take this exercise and revamp it for your life. Make your own cards with your own many goals and options in life: write a book/don’t write a book, get married/be happily single, travel/own a home, spend time with friends/work overtime, job that makes you money/job that brings you joy, etc.
If you only get your top three or four things in life, what do you prioritize on your own list? What will make you feel lucky, special and happy?
- You’re as big as a winter melon, or about 20 inches long. I can tell! You are definitely running out of room down there.
- Nesting continues to happen… especially now that we’re buying our first home (more on that in a future post!).
- You’re already loved by your family. I know one Auntie for whom you’re going to be her first niece or nephew and she’s pretty pumped about it! Your cousin, Tessa, has even come up to me and kissed my belly saying, “cousin!”
- We decorated for Christmas. Yes, you are a winter baby, we will always have a tree up for your birthday (join the club) and that’s the way life goes. It’s the most wonderful time of the year 🙂
- You weigh between 6lbs and 9lbs. After WEEKS of The Bump’s website saying you weighed between 4-5 lbs, the weekly update shows an incredible growth spurt for you. Oddly, your fundal height didn’t increase this week, but as my Mom said, she had small babies. Even the lady at the bank didn’t realize I was pregnant, which made me laugh (I dressed strategically to get that mortgage pre-approval, ha ha!).