Do You Feel Like You Are Enough?

I’m going to confess something here. I often have the feeling that I’m not good enough. I’m not a good enough friend, a good enough wife or a good enough mother. I’m not good enough at my job, or at my blog or at writing. I’m not fit enough, slim enough, happy enough, social enough, smart enough… the list goes on and on.

Here’s the thing: I am not looking for sympathy. That is not what this post is about.

What I am wondering, is if I’m alone in this?

I have a tiny feeling that I’m not. 

The interesting part is that if any of my friends said this about themselves to me, I would immediately come back with, “you ARE good enough.” Whether my friends or family have feelings of failure, I know that they’re great parents, friends, coworkers, etc. I know that their weight doesn’t define them, or that the amount in their bank account isn’t what makes them good enough. I know that we’re all trying our best.

I’ve also been feeling mega-overwhelmed for a while now. I’ve felt that I need to be constantly striving, particularly with my home and with the blog. I feel like there isn’t enough traffic, or my home isn’t organized enough or it’s not tidy enough. And so what do I do? I put more pressure on myself. I make a to-do list a mile long.

You know what happens then? I’m not happy enough. What I have enough of is stress. Is that really what I want to have enough of?

So, I’ve done something just for me. I’ve had a Giving Key made with the word ‘enough’ inscribed on it. I’m going to wear it every day until I truly believe that I am enough, that I have enough, that I’m giving enough. When I’ve gotten to that place, as is the way with a Giving Key, I will give the key to someone who needs it.

I’ve had enough about worrying about enough, so this key is my reminder to myself.

And to anyone else who has anxiety over this, I’ll tell you what I would tell my friends and what I’m working on telling myself. You are enough. Just as you are. Have goals. Have dreams. You can still strive to be better. Just know that you are enough, just as you are.