Three years ago I married my best friend. Hard to believe time has gone by so quickly! While David and I met back in 2010, we got married just under two years later in Ardtornish, Scotland. Today I wanted to interrupt my usual writing post to talk about the man behind the Girl Tries Life blog, my husband, David.
To the average reader, this blog is about me and my adventures. The thing is, the majority of my travels have David hand in hand. I used to travel solo, or meet friends along the way. Now, I’m lucky enough to bring my best friend with me.
David and I met in May 2010, when I came to work at the Auchrannie Resort on the Isle of Arran. I was old hat to the hotel, having worked there many times before, but I’d never worked in the restaurant as a server (once upon a time I was a rock-star receptionist!). I met David during my first shift. He came to my rescue while I was outside on the balcony fighting with a jerk of a patio umbrella mixed with what felt like gale force winds. He’s always been way more handy than me.
Our connection was fast, the kind where you just know. I’d always frowned at people who said that, wondering how you just know, but they’re right (if you hadn’t realized it yet – sappy post warning!). In the four months we spent together on Arran, it was our mini-tester for traveling together. We cycled to Corrie (me… on a bike… thank you), tasted whisky at the Lochranza distillery and had many great value lunch meals at the Brodick Bar. Alas, I was set to spend a semester in Caen, France. We’d talked about David moving to France to join me for four months, finding a job as a waiter or a barman. As my departure date loomed, it became pretty obvious that David wasn’t going to be able to join me. How would he find a job? He didn’t speak a word of French. I’d be at school… it felt like the end.
My Travel Partner in Crime
We agreed to a trip together in Paris before we said goodbye. It was a pretty bittersweet trip. I’d been to Paris before, but never with a boyfriend. It was such a romantic experience, yet I was also miserable on the inside at the thought of saying goodbye. Turns out I was also miserable on the outside, my eczema running wild with the stress of the situation. When we said goodbye that last morning, I’ve honestly never cried like that before. It was the ugly crying, the kind that you’d think was fake. The thing was, I wasn’t sure that we’d make it. Long distance couples rarely do.
We met again in Berlin – actually, I surprised him by meeting him in Arran first – and spent four or five days exploring the city. We took a Fat Tire bike tour, drank gluhwein at the Christmas markets and ate dinner at a blind experience restaurant… that was different! Even though I’m a total planner and David isn’t, we found that our travel styles jived.
Years later, and a few more countries under our combined belts, I can say that we’re good travel partners. Yes, we bicker and if we’re under stress the other one feels it, but we also enjoy the silly moments together. Regardless of how much money we spent, I will always appreciate the three months that we got to spend together in Southeast Asia. We spent three years long-distance, after all, so the three months (a month for every year) did wonders to help us reconnect.
My Biggest Writing Champion
When I told David that I wanted to write a book, he didn’t bat an eyelash. There was no question, he knew that I could do it. When I told him that I wanted to blog about our adventures (and maybe one day become a travel blogger!), he was behind me 100%. In fact, he wanted to be part of the journey. David has helped me behind the scenes transitioning my blog from a hosted to self-hosted platform. When I’ve been ready to throw my laptop in a bucket of water, he’s been there to talk me off the technical ledge. He has taught me how to take a better photograph, and many of the photos on this blog have been taken by David.
When I decided that I was going to self-publish a travel guide (in the works!), David couldn’t have been more supportive. He’s taking photos for the shot list and is going to help me format my guidebook so that it can compete with the majors (I hope)! He cheers me on when I have days with low blog stats and praises the days the numbers shoot through the roof.
We often forget about the small things in relationships. Whether you write, run, crochet or paint, I’m sure your significant other does little things to support you. From grabbing my no-room-Americano with no-complaints to cooking dinner so that I don’t have to think about it, he’s a pretty special guy.
How are we spending our anniversary? While we can’t afford to head off on another adventure, we’re going to take a food adventure, a food crawl, around our hometown of Calgary. Instead of splurging for dinner at one fancy restaurant, we’re going to try out THREE fancy restaurants, with one course at each place.
Happy Anniversary to the best friend that I could possibly ask for. I only hope that I can support him in everything he cares about as much as he supports me.
Here’s where I promote my hubby. After moving to Canada for me, a huge life change, David also made the brave decision to go back to school for web design. If you’re looking for a cost-effective web designer, check out David’s website, DS Design Interactive. I know he’d love the work experience. Take it from me, my husband is the hardest worker you will find, will put all his passion behind your project and he absolutely goes the extra mile.
Happy Anniversary, David.